The Night I Had to Sing Through a Shattered Heart: A Story About Finding Peace Through Pain
- Pamela D. Marshall
- Feb 3
- 4 min read
When life demands a performance but your soul is falling apart, what do you do?
I'll never forget the night I stood at center court, lights blazing, cameras rolling, microphone in my trembling hand. I was the local TV reporter chosen to sing the National Anthem at a semi-pro basketball game. I had practiced. I was polished. I was ready.
What I wasn't ready for was the phone call that came earlier that morning, the one that cracked my whole world open.
The Phone Call That Changed Everything
A voice on the other end told me that my husband's secretary was pregnant.
And my husband was the father.
All day, I cried until there were no tears left. I called everyone who would answer, not for advice but for oxygen. I tried to keep myself from calling a hit on both of them… but let's just say the flesh was weak and the Holy Spirit was working overtime.
And still, I had to sing.
I had to walk into that arena with a shattered heart, a raw throat, and a storm inside my chest big enough to split the sky. There is no postponing pain. You can't call in sick to your own heartbreak.
When You Can't Avoid the Moment
So I stood there on that hardwood floor, trying to sound like joy while drowning in sorrow. My voice cracked. The tears came. And the cameras caught all of it: center court, center stage, center of my unraveling.
What do you do when life demands a performance, but your soul is falling apart?
You go thru it. Not around it. Not over it. Not pretending. Thru it.
Because Peace doesn't arrive wrapped in perfection. Peace is born in the breath you take while your world is breaking. Peace is forged in the fire and carried out through forgiveness. Read the whole story and how i went "thru" it.
Why I Created Go Thru It
I created Go Thru It, not as a slogan, but as a lifeline for finding peace thru pain by facing it head-on. Every storm I survived taught me this truth:
Peace is not the absence of pain. It is the power to walk thru it without losing yourself.
The journey toward inner Peace requires us to face our pain, not avoid it. We must breathe through the moments that threaten to break us. We must forgive when forgiveness feels impossible. And we must remember that within us lies a wellspring of strength: the Breath, the Flame, the Comforter.
With that power, we can go thru it.
Finding Peace "Thru" Pain
Forgiveness isn't about excusing what happened or pretending the pain wasn't real. Forgiveness is about refusing to let that pain own your future. It's about choosing Peace over bitterness, healing over resentment, and breath over suffocation.
When I stood on that basketball court with my voice cracking and tears streaming, I learned something profound: you don't need to be perfect to be powerful. You just need to be present.
Present with your pain. Present with your breath. Present with the truth that you are stronger than you know.
Finding Peace "Thru" the Practice
Healing doesn't happen overnight. It's a practice, a daily commitment to choosing Peace even when everything around you feels chaotic. That's why I believe in combining spiritual wisdom with physical grounding practices like yoga and breathwork. Today's Yoga Practice: Tadasana (Mountain Pose)
Tadasana is the foundation of all standing poses, but its deeper gift is how it strengthens your physical and emotional alignment. When you feel unsteady, this pose reminds you of your inherent stability.
How to Practice:
Stand tall with feet grounded evenly on the floor
Lengthen your spine and soften your shoulders down your back
Engage your core gently to support your lower back
Open your chest and let your arms rest naturally at your sides
Breathe deeply, feeling steady and centered in your body
As you hold this pose, imagine yourself as a mountain: rooted, unmovable, resilient. No matter what storms pass through, the mountain remains.
You Already Have What You Need
Just like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, we often search outside ourselves for what we already possess. Dorothy thought she needed the Scarecrow's brain, the Tin Man's heart, and the Lion's courage. But she had everything she needed all along.
You have everything you need to go thru whatever you're facing.
The key to this journey is already in your heart and in your hands. The power to forgive. The strength to breathe. The courage to face your pain without running from it. Peace Takes Practice
If you're going through something right now that feels unbearable, I want you to know: you're not alone. And you don't have to go around it or over it. You can go thru it.
With each breath, you're building your capacity for Peace. With each moment of presence, you're strengthening your foundation. With each act of forgiveness, you're setting yourself free.
Peace is not the absence of pain. Peace is the power to walk through it without losing yourself.
Ready to Begin Your Journey?
If this message resonates with you, I invite you to explore the Go Thru It movement. Whether you're dealing with heartbreak, betrayal, loss, or any form of emotional pain, there is a path through it. And on the other side of that path? Peace. Healing. Freedom.
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